Use your Pilot in Command authority

Only the pilot in command decides which runway is used for take off.  He is also the one who decides which instrument approach is utilized as well as the one who determines which runway is used for landing.   In order to make this happen, he only is required to request it from ATC.  ATC may not deny the request but may offer a delay to comply.  If you have a good reason to request other than what Air Traffic Control offers you, do not hesitate to make the request. Never permit the Air Traffic Controller to assume command of your aircraft.